Why It's Hard for You to Find Love

Have you ever realized that after college, the dating pool becomes smaller? 'Cause we just did. As you get older, it becomes harder to deal with the sad truth that finding the love of your life has just become a lot more difficult. Even if you weren't able to find the love you are looking for in college, at least it felt like you had options. But why is it that it's so hard now? Why can't you meet them? Where are they? Don't you worry! You are not alone in your quest to find love! None of us envisioned that we would still be single by the time we reach our 20s, in the most exciting time of our lives. And as we grow closer and closer to our 30s, we can't help but ask ourselves, why is it so difficult to meet someone you like? But this is reality and and as we accept the single life, it's time to reflect on what has happened. Why is it so hard for us to find love? 

It's hard for you to find love because you've been betrayed more than you've been loved. You don't trust easily anymore, you're too guarded, you're afraid of opening up again to someone. You don't know how to believe people anymore when they tell you they like you or that they care about you, you think they're just pretending, you think they're not being genuine.

You're dreaming of the old, sweet and pure romance. The one you heard your grandparents' stories, the one you read in novels, the one you saw in black and white movies. And that's what you want to experience when someone courts you. But this generation is different and modern now.

You found more safety being alone than thinking of being with someone. You like knowing that you don't have to deal with anyone. We can't fall in love with someone when we are so scared of getting hurt or scared of having our freedom taken away. You like knowing that no on else will make you feel like you're not good enough.

It's hard for you to find love when you don't know what you're looking for. This is the real deal. You have an idea of it in your head but you've never lived it. You never felt it. You don't know forever. You don't know unconditional love. You don't know what love is and sometimes it feels like you're searching for something that might not even exist anymore. And because you don't know how it feels, you ignore the people who do love you.

Again, it is not necessarily the person that makes you fall in love with them. It is your ability to be open to love at that point in your life. He or she just happened to come around when you were openhearted. When you're willing to feel, willing to risk, willing to let someone else in. Even though it can be difficult in finding true love there is always hope that we will when we are ready to. 

Sometimes all it takes is for us to put ourselves back on the market and choose to be willing to love again.

Much love,

Candis & Daphne

On Candis: Shop Thrift Market dress, Sammydress earrings, Strut heels

On Daphne: Shop Thrift Market top & culottes, Zara heels